Fragile Heart

Every February 25th, I wake up sad, lethargic, and uninterested in participating in anything happening outside of my own silent room.  On this day in 2003, an amazing girl named Melissa collapsed in her mid-twenties of a heart attack and died, and on that same day, my now 9 year old cousin Jules was born.

I had known Melissa for less than a year, but she was the most vibrant person I’d ever met. She was the kind of person who made you feel alive and your spirit refreshed after spending any amount of time with her.  The first time I ever met her was at my housewarming party after moving into my row house in Fells Point, Baltimore.  My friend Mark had recently started dating Melissa, and she bounced into my kitchen like we had been old friends.  I gave her a tour of my place, and she was particularly excited to see my pictures taken on Wrightsville Beach with Katie Homes.  Those pictures were taken one fortuitous afternoon when my roommate Carmen and I had decided to take our new cameras to the beach.  As we were heading back to the car, we noticed Chris Klein and Katie Homes pulling into the lot, so we, as nonchalantly as we could, went back to the beach to giddily take more pictures.  We plotted to casually act surprised when we ran into this famous couple as they were trying to fly a kite.  To this day, I have no idea why we didn’t get pictures with Chris Klein, too..  The last stop of my home tour was my bookshelf.  As Melissa leaned over to see my books on the lower shelves, I noticed a glimmer of her dangling necklace. When she straightened back up, that necklace rested on nearly translucent skin of her chest framed by her v-neck top.  In that split second, I was frozen and washed over by a complete sadness, with the phrase “Her heart is fragile” rattling through my very core.  She broke my thoughts by smiling and asked if she could borrow my Left Behind book.  I told her she could have all of them if she wanted, and she laughed, taking just the first one.

Melissa had a heart attack on a basketball court the evening of February 25th.  She had a congenital heart defect that was aggrivated by increased activity.  Her whole life, she played sports competitively, and she loved playing them.  The very thing that gave her joy cut her life short.

To this day, I ask God why I was given that insight into her heart.  I feel guilty for not warning her somehow, or putting into use the knowledge that I was somehow allowed to know.  But then I wonder what I actually could have done.  I would have sounded like a lunatic, warning her of her ‘fragile heart’ just 30 minutes after meeting her.  Regardless, the weight of that knowledge is almost too much to bear.  Maybe that’s why my cousin was also born that same day.

The population is at equilibrium

The joy of one

and the sorrow of another.

How can nature’s opposing forces affect the same person

in one day?

The gift of life in the form of a child

and the snatching away of a budding life.

A mother rejoices

and another weeps.

A father overwhelmed

A lover deserted and lost.

The breath of life



About miccahmarie

I got my first Diary when I was 10. I couldn't wait to write in it at night to divulge all of the details of my day onto paper with my turquoise pen. I now find that writing has become therapeutic for me. I need time to think and sort out what is going on inside and often when I'm most emotionally heightened is when I write most creatively. My years of journaling are a compilation of written out prayers as well as lamenting poems. Now as a wife and mother, my perspectives have changed, as I reflect on who I was and who God is making me to be.
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3 Responses to Fragile Heart

  1. keithward1213 says:

    This is super sad. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with a premature death like that. I find myself just sheltering myself from death, which is tough since Jo is a Hospice social worker. But I do my best anyway.
    On an up note, I love Fell’s Point. I’ve had a number of beers, Guinness in particular, at Slaínte. Matt Vana and I have been down there many times to watch Man United play, followed by beers outside and smokes by the water. Good times.

  2. This is beautiful, Miccah. God forgives each and every time we miss things. And He is in control no matter how much we know on this earth. Praying for you now just for God to bless your socks off right in this moment.

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